“ नारी ”

सुख दुख के शब्दों से सजी हुई 

एक कविता है

कभी अल्हड़ , कभी शांत , कभी गहरी सी 

एक सरिता है

मस्त फुलों से लदी खुशबू बिखेरती हुई

एक लतिका है हर मुश्किल का सामना करती हुई

वो अपराजिता है

जीवन की हर लड़ाई से लड़ती हुई

वो विजेता है

आंचल में अपार प्रेम लिए मोह से

भरी ममता है

नारी वो है जो हर पीड़ा को झेल जाये

उसमें इतनी क्षमता है। 

 Ujjwal Sharan                    @fly_under_water

Tribute to all Women...

LET HER TAKE HER TIME !

When she takes her time 

To drink a barely warm cup of tea, let her. She's given her time to cook your meal and serve it to you before she sat to drink her tea.

When she takes time

To select a dish from the menu, let her. Every day, for every meal she has prepared she has given her time to think about what to make, how much, and for whom.

When she takes time

To dress up to go out with you, let her. She has given her time to make sure that your ironed clothes are in their place and knows better than you, where your socks are. She has dressed up her child thoughtfully, to look like the most smartly dressed up child around.

When she takes time

To watch TV mindlessly, let her. She is only half concentrating and has a clock ticking in her head. As soon as it's nearing dinner time, you'll see her disappear to get things ready.

When she takes time

To serve you breakfast, let her. She has kept aside the burnt toast for herself and is taking the time to serve her family the nicest ones she could manage.

When she takes time

After her tea to just sit by the window and stare into nothingness, let her. It's her life, she's given you countless hours of her life..

Let her take a few minutes for herself.

She's rushing through her life, giving chunks of her time whenever needed, wherever needed.

Don't rush her more than she rushes herself.

Don't push her harder than she pushes herself.

  “ She is the  World🌏 ”

Reflections - 20 lesson learned from 2019

Life is incessant but start of the new year still remains the best time to reflect on what's happened, lessons learnt and memories made. As I fly back for my hometown after my papers , I took some time off to reflect what 2019 has taught me and here are a few things I learnt.

1. Check ten times before ever doubting someone.
2. The reputation and trust of a thousand years may be determined and destroyed by the conduct of one hour.
3. If you think you know everything about something, you are misinformed.
4. Cold words and cold looks cause much more pain than cold nights and cold food.
5. Chasing abundance and prosperity triumphs chasing wealth and short term pursuits.
6. We learn less from our happiness and more from our pain. Pain always adds perspective. Reflecting on life when in pain, adds more meaning to it.
7. Even good swimmers drown. Monkeys fall from their own trees. It's completely okay to fail in things you are good at.
8. Silent seas never made the best sailors.
9. If you ask, you will feel shame for one minute, if you do not, you will feel shame all your life.
10. One kind word can warm someone's day.
11. The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good intention.
12. Obsession is always bad. Whether it is for someone or something.
13. If you think about it, decide it. If you have decided, do not think about it.
14. Diet is a refection of who you are. Eat like a rock-star. Self care is very important.
15. Some days even being able to get yourself out of bed is a big thing. Compliment yourself on those days.
16. Dennis Kimbro once said: “If you’re the smartest one of your friends, you need new friends.”
17. Smile more. Sometimes it's easier to act yourself to feel than feel yourself to act.
18. Regrets are heavy. Try having them less.
19. There is more to life than retiring rich.
20. Anything is as deep, as difficult, as enriching, as fun, as loving, as beautiful as you see it to be. It's all in the mindset. The lens of mind can change your viewpoint. Always.
    

As last year approached us to an end, I wish you all the best, cheers and lot of good spirit for ongoing new year. I have always believed in learning from everyone's experiences and would love to know about things you learnt last year. Cheers to a happy 2020!

Perception- Small is Big

The start of the 2020 brought back the cheerful and optimistic time of making resolutions. We are programmed to set big goals, not achieve them completely, feel guilty for less than planned self-improvement and then wait for a new Monday, new month or a new year to set even bigger goals.

I believe that it is not the big things that make an impact, it's the little ones.

For most of us, small treats underlie the big punishments. Snoozing alarm by 20 min to skip the run plan which you so deliberately planned never hurts one time, but if done fifty times - it makes you unfit. Cheating on being sugar-free by eating a chocolate once, can double your workout time for your next day.

A way to change the way we behave is to make these small failures big. My dad suggested paying him 500 bucks every time I skipped my run. I'm pretty sure that if I lose 500 bucks every time I skipped my run, I'd only do it once in a week perhaps (gulp). The other thing which can be done is to have high awareness about each individual action and do constant course corrections by monitoring our performance - apps which monitor your eating habits, productivity apps for ensuring capped social media time and others.

We under emphasize how small things can make a big impact. Well, here are a few for starters:

1. Eating a chocolate after meal can double your normal workout time.

2. However, saving 10 minutes from lunch and spending it on reading can get you places.

3. Taking out ten minutes from social media and learning 5 new words or knowing about 5 new ideas can add roughly 1800 words or 1800 new ideas to your perspective at year end.

Small is actually big. Start small.

Perfectly imperfect,

Ujjwal